Each child will react in his/her own way depending upon how he/she views this “new addition” to the family.  Children may feel threatened and react with behavior unlearned.  They return to soiling their clothes, acting helpless, speaking baby talk or acting hostile. 

It is best to help them view the situation positively.  Encourage them to talk about some of the changes that may occur in the household with the arrival of the new baby.  Encourage conversations from your children about their feelings.  Allowing your children to help prepare for the new baby is often helpful.  Perhaps taking them along on a shopping trip for baby items will help with their understanding and good feelings about the situation.  Allow them to help around the house in new and different ways.  They will usually appreciate the independence and enjoy their new feeling of importance. 

After the baby comes, be sure to set aside time especially for your older children, so they won’t feel neglected.  Young children need constant reassurance that they are loved. 

Several hospitals now allow young children to visit the new baby soon after birth.  The existence of “sibling visitation” programs may be a consideration in deciding which medical facility you might like to utilize when your baby is born.  Many parents feel that involving the other children early with a new baby promotes family closeness and helps to avoid other possible problems with insecurity, jealousy and rivalry. 

You may want to think about “what is right” for your family and what is available in your community for providing you with the type of birth experience you desire.  Please feel free to discuss with your doctor any questions or concerns you may have regarding the adjustments of your other children to your new baby.